Men After God

The book

Becoming a Man After God

A biblically based framework to succeed with a thriving faith and family.

Cover of Becoming a Man After God by Dustin Alley

Where it started

It was one of my best years ever. I was pastoring, teaching college and high school, finishing a doctorate, running a business, and raising three kids with Sarah. Every item on that list was good. None of it was sin.

In the second half of that year I hit a wall in my own kitchen. Dehydrated, exhausted, going down. Sarah caught me before I fell. The doctor told me to slow down.

I was doing all the right things, even godly things, and drowning.

I had been telling God everything I was doing for Him. I had never asked what He wanted to do with me.

The five pillars

Five pillars. In this order.

It is a framework, not a system. The same five pillars look different for a man with toddlers than for a man with teenagers, different for a pastor than for a plumber. What does not change is the order.

1DeepenYour relationship with JesusAbiding before doing. Everything else is built on this, or it falls over.
2DevoteTime to your familyYour first ministry. Before the job, before the platform, before the church calendar.
3DevelopYourselfYour mind, your body, and the gifts you were handed to steward.
4DeliverValue to othersWork and service as a contribution, not only a paycheck.
5Do nothingFor JesusRest as obedience. It is not laziness, and most men treat it as if it were.

Most men start at number four. This book is about starting at number one.

What is inside

Two parts, ten chapters

What is a man after God?

  1. From history to His story
  2. A man after God’s heart
  3. A man after God’s focus
  4. A man after God’s lifestyle

The five pillars

  1. Deepen your relationship with Jesus
  2. Devote time to family
  3. Develop yourself
  4. Deliver value to others
  5. Do nothing for Jesus
  6. Living as a man after God

Who it is for

The man who is busy with good things and running on empty

He is not in crisis. He is not far from God. He is just tired in a way sleep does not fix, and he suspects the problem is not how hard he is working but what he is working toward. If that is you, this was written for you. I was that man.

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